Connection vs. Intimacy
Ascension Symptoms Monitor for February 5, 2020

As we courageously move forward into 2020, we are being asked to get off the fence and make a choice. Otherwise, the fence will crumble beneath us and where we land will become the choice, whether we like it or not. To make your best choice you have to know what is true for you. And, you have to recognize and accept that what is true for you may not be true for anyone or everyone else. Still, in your truth is your integrity and your freedom. It is a crucial time to exercise both, vigorously and consistently. Instead of just working out your body, can you imagine going to a gym where you routinely work out your truth and keep it in tiptop form? Understanding what is true for you is indeed tricky because you have to first discover who has already imposed their truths upon you. Then you have to decide whether you agree with the imposition or not. That being said, you next have to consider the relationships built around illusion, manipulation, authenticity, and purpose. How are you going to live in relationship with those who share your truth and those who don’t? That is a lot to work out!!! And for all of us on the ascension journey, this is our job. How can we be trusted with the evolution of our civilization if we cannot embody the truths of our Soul and express them through unconditionally loving actions?

There is a very big difference between being connected to someone and becoming intimate. And by intimacy, I am not talking about sex. I am talking about sharing one’s values, beliefs, goals, concerns, challenges, and victories. Intimate friends and family show up for each other spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. They are kind, strong, dependable, brave, true, and expect the best from us and for us. Intimate relationships are built upon respect and share a mutual purpose. They bring meaning to life and become the vehicles through which fulfillment is experienced. The intimacy I am describing is found in enlightened relationships. There are no dramas in enlightened intimacy because there is nothing to fight over. Limitless discoveries unfold in enlightened relationship as spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical adventures regularly emerge. The challenges are greeted with faith in one’s Soul and in each other with the commitment is to collaboratively work it out. And therein develops deep and profound intimacy. Enlightened relationships are not easy because they draw the best of us from us for all. They are also some of the most joyous because we learn to treasure the power of love within us. So what does this mean for February?

In this month where we celebrate love, we are being given the choice to engage in enlightened relationship or to settle into third-dimensional dramatic relationships. Drama is flourishing the world over and it is easy to be swept away by the latest fear or the most notable hatred, But not so, for those on the evolutionary journey deliberately choose to be at peace and to create peace wherever they are. They are not fighting back or fighting for. They are rising up and listening to discover a higher truth, a new and untried way, a place where opportunity exists in the present and the past is really over. This is where connection becomes important. You do not have to be intimate with those to whom you are connected. However, you do have to really listen, be respectful, and choose to understand the other person’s point of view. That being said you are not going to share the depth of enlightened relationship with someone who has chosen not to be in one. That is disrespecting his or her choice to continue to experience drama and division. Your job is to unconditionally love, respectfully accept, and create a healthy boundary where opportunity, not dismissal lives. If you can respectfully connect through unconditional love, then maybe, one day, those who have experienced the true power of love may choose to leave the dramas behind and seek the intimacy of enlightened relationship.

Take some time to write a Truth Manifesto. What is true for you? And how did you discover this? Include your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, important memories, and physical realities. Once you have completed it, decide whether or not to share it. If you decide to share, will it be with someone to whom you are connected or to someone with whom you experience enlightened intimacy? If you feel charged by your manifesto to blame, to judge, or bring someone to justice, drama is taking hold. It might be better to write a letter to this individual and not send it. Keep working on this relationship until you can unconditionally love yourself for engaging in it. Then, listen to your Soul and discover what will bring you true and lasting peace around this relationship and follow your Soul’s direction. By discovering a new way to make peace with someone who has impacted your life, a greater level of enlightenment will unfold in your own intimate relationship with yourself. Happy Valentine’s Day to you and to our world!